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D/s Safety and Signs of Abuse

Posted in BDSM Basics with tags , , , , on July 7, 2008 by bdsmfordummies

We have reposted this article with the kind permission of ownedgalbabs

Extract from Wikepedia

In BDSM, the term power exchange is associated with a submissive exchanging his or her authority to make decisions (whether just for a scene, or for his or her entire life), for the Dominant’s agreement to take responsibility for his/her happiness and health. Continue reading

The real balance of power

Posted in BDSM Basics with tags , , , on July 5, 2008 by bdsmfordummies


I look at my friends and acquaintances and see that the submissives I know are the more out-going group. They are also the more opinionated faction, less hesitant to speak their minds. But, according to prevailing public opinion, submissives are doormats, incapable of making a decision themselves, who are not allowed to have independent thoughts, who will not protest a direct order. Sorry to burst a bubble, but that is far from true. Continue reading