Archive for the BDSM Basics Category

D/s Safety and Signs of Abuse

Posted in BDSM Basics with tags , , , , on July 7, 2008 by bdsmfordummies

We have reposted this article with the kind permission of ownedgalbabs

Extract from Wikepedia

In BDSM, the term power exchange is associated with a submissive exchanging his or her authority to make decisions (whether just for a scene, or for his or her entire life), for the Dominant’s agreement to take responsibility for his/her happiness and health. Continue reading

The real balance of power

Posted in BDSM Basics with tags , , , on July 5, 2008 by bdsmfordummies

 

I look at my friends and acquaintances and see that the submissives I know are the more out-going group. They are also the more opinionated faction, less hesitant to speak their minds. But, according to prevailing public opinion, submissives are doormats, incapable of making a decision themselves, who are not allowed to have independent thoughts, who will not protest a direct order. Sorry to burst a bubble, but that is far from true. Continue reading

D/s Compatibility

Posted in BDSM Basics with tags , , , on July 5, 2008 by bdsmfordummies

In almost any relationship it is important to have or attain some kind of compatibility with one’s partner. If we are very lucky we may just find a natural compatibility with a partner who has the same or similar likes and dislikes as us. This natural compatibility will probably extend to things other than D/s, for example, having similar tastes in music, hobbies, leisure pursuits etc. Now, if one finds a partner as compatible as this we may well describe them as a soulmate, and once found we ought to do our utmost to hang onto them, because they don’t come round very often, if at all! Continue reading

Fundamentals of BDSM

Posted in BDSM Basics with tags on July 5, 2008 by bdsmfordummies

OK, so something deep inside you is gnawing away, that gut instinct that you are trying to compress, telling you that you want to submit or you want to Dominate another person for sexual pleasure or physical / emotional gratification, yet, you’ve seen the images on the internet and you’ve read the horror stories related to BDSM and are probably thinking you are a bit of freak – right? Oh so wrong. Continue reading